The Second Talk: Help For Menopausal Women

Every woman has experienced “the talk.” My mother wasn’t one for auditory teaching techniques so I read a lot of books. At about age 11 I received the book “White Gloves and Party Manners” which was supposed to teach me how to be a lady and practice proper etiquette. I loved that book; it made me feel so grown up!

Then the next year I received a box in the mail (addressed to ME no less) that contained a kit called “My First Period.” I believe it had a book or at least a pamphlet and a belt, pads, etc. Girls are SO lucky these days to have pads that stick in your underwear instead of those awful belts that resemble a G-string but are not the least bit sexy!! I always felt like I was wearing a diaper! What I would have given back then for panty liners with wings!!!

Now at this stage in my life, I’m ready for the second talk—the one about the Big M—menopause. Naturally, I turned again to my mother. When I started to experience symptoms of menopause I asked my mom for advice. The conversation went like this:

Me: Mom, how did you get through menopause?

Mom: I just stopped having a period, sweetie.

Me (incredulous): Didn’t you have hot flashes?

Mom: No

Me: Mood swings? Irritability?

Mom: No

Me: Insomnia? Night Sweats?

Mom: No, I just quit having a period.

Me: Thanks a lot, Ma big help

I think she’s lying about the irritability because I KNOW that’s why she wouldn’t let me go to the drive-in theatre with my boyfriend to see the Diana Ross movie Mahogany when I was 16. Not that I hold it against her or anything.

Unfortunately for me, it hasn’t been that easy. My journey has been challenging—I’m now in my sixth year of menopause. I had NO idea what I was in for.

I started peri-menopause in my late forties with terrible night sweats. I would have to change my pj’s sometimes 2-3 times a night. Covers off…covers on…covers off… covers on. A few years later the hot flashes started. I honestly don’t think men can ever understand what that is like—to go from perfectly comfortable to feeling like you are Joan of Arc being burned alive at the stake in two seconds flat. I suffered like this for more years than anyone should.

The Poise Brand has developed some spectacular products I literally cannot wait to purchase!! I SO wish I would have had Poise Body Cooling Towelettes or Body Cooling Gel a few years ago. It would have been so nice to rub a little cooling gel on my forehead, neck and chest. The Body Cooling Towelettes come in a re-sealable package that you throw in your handbag; it’s super convenient!! Why didn’t someone think of this sooner????

I had to figure out menopause for myself. It is way more complicated that just having a period; it seems as soon as one symptom disappears another one takes its place.

Thank goodness the Poise Brand wants to help women approach this life stage with confidence by being the first to start The 2nd Talk, a whole new way to talk about menopause and other wellness issues for women over 40 and introducing a new, first-of-its-kind line of over-the-counter menopause products designed to work naturally with her body and provide comfort from symptoms.

Poise wants to rally 1 million women to pledge to have The 2nd Talk by World Menopause Day on October 18. By joining the conversation, women will gain more menopause knowledge, support, and solutions. Since I am still experiencing symptoms, I’m going to join the conversation at

Not only is Poise providing a forum for women suffering from menopause but they are offering a fabulous sweepstakes too! You can win a $250 VISA Gift Card!! Poise wants to know “When do you feel most confident?” Answer in the comments to be entered for a chance to win.


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  1. Mami2jcn says:

    I feel most confident when I’m having a good hair day.

  2. Mami2jcn says:


  3. I am more confident after a good work out and noticing that my clothing fits better.

  4. Jessica To says:

    I feel most confident when I am well rested and wearing something that I think flatters my figure.

  5. I feel most confident when my husband compliments when I am not dressed up.

  6. I feel most confident when I’m wearing my favorite pair of jeans.

  7. I feel confident when I’m asked a question at work and I actually know the answer. And then I realize…I’m GOOD at what I do!

  8. M.J. Moore says:

    I feel most confident when I’ve been taking care of myself- eating right and exercising make me feel ready to take on anything!

  9. Stephanie says:

    i feel being confident just being my self!

  10. Stephanie says:
  11. i feel the most confident when i’m out on the town with my girls!!

  12. Amanda Sakovitz says:

    I feel most confident after getting my hair cut and colored!

  13. Amanda Sakovitz says:
  14. I am most confident after visiting spa and getting my hair done

  15. amy pugmire says:

    I am most confident when I feel good on the inside. (when emotionally things are going well)

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  17. Carolyn N. says:

    I feel most confident with clear skin and comfortable clothes!

  18. I feel most confident when I am surrounded by loved ones.

  19. I feel most confident when I am relaxed and happy.

  20. Tiffany Winner says:

    when i have a good hair day i feel more confident,

  21. Tiffany Winner says:
  22. when i’m having a good hair day!

  23. Tracy Robertson says:

    I feel most confident after I have had the opportunity to help someone, and I feel that I made a difference.

  24. Debbie B says:

    i feel most confident when i am wearing nice clothes and have my hair and makeup fixed nicely

  25. Debbie B says:
  26. I feel most confident when I score a high score on an exam, maybe nerdy but a smart woman is confidence to me.

  27. Kelly D says:

    I feel the most confident when I am wearing nice clothes, jewelry and have my hair done nicely.

  28. Kelly D says:
  29. Kelly D says:
  30. i feel most confident w/ heels & a flowy sundress :)
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  31. I feel most confident on the few days I’m not having a hot flash. I’m happy to hear about these new Poise products since I use Poise light pads every single day.

  32. it’s always nice to have older friends or sisters so we get a heads up on what will be next. But I guess life is not always perfect. I feel most confident when I do what I love, which is to cook for my family.

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  34. Jessie C. says:

    I feel most confident when I feel fit, am dressed well and appropriate.
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  35. Jessie C. says:
  36. I feel so wonderful when I look nice and people notice me. And when my grandson tells me I am pretty

  37. Peggy Bayer says:

    I feel most confident right now, reading this and realizing I’m not alone. From the first line it sounds like I could have written this post. Most days I feels so down because this is so hard but right now I feel great because I know what I’m going through is really normal. I’d probably feel even more confident if I could have a night off from the covers on, covers off, etc.!! I will have to look for these products, they may be just what we all need!

    • You are NOT alone! That’s why it’s so important to talk to each other. I’m still dealing with the covers off, covers on but I’m getting by!!

  38. I fill my most confident when someone compliments me on my perfume, especially a strange man. It makes my day!!!

  39. I feel most confident when I am not bloated, having a good hair day, had enough rest, and stay cool.

  40. Judith B. says:

    Please don’t hate me but I no longer have those symptoms. How astute of Poise to know that their products and information are probably two of the biggest confidence builders; or would have been for me. Now what makes me the most confident is knowing God.

    • I don’t hate you, I’m thrilled that you no longer have symptoms–you give me and countless other women hope!

  41. Judith B. says:
  42. I feel the most confident after my husband compliments me on my outfit- he doesn’t usually say much, so when he does, it means a lot!

  43. I tried Poise Cooling Gel and I really like the feeling when I apply it.. I feel so much more confident when using it..

  44. I feel most confident when I’m working out. Best way the start the day!

  45. I feel most confident when I am doing something good for my mind body or soul.

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  47. ANGEL JACKLYN says:
  48. When I have my makeup on

  49. I’m confident when I think I did a good job or cooked a nice meal. Thanks for the review and giveaway.
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  50. I feel most confident when I’ve had a great ride on my horse.

  51. A new outfit always makes me feel confident.

  52. I feel most confident when I’m doing a good job, and when I got to take some time with my eye shadow, and when I know I’m fit.

  53. Andrea Darst says:

    I feel most confident when I’m wearing a favorite outfit or pair of shoes and my hubby tells me I look amazing!

  54. Andrea Darst says:

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  55. I feel more confiedent when i am not sweating.

  56. Stefanie Gladden says:

    I feel most confident after working out!!

  57. Stefanie Gladden says:
  58. I feel confident when I am doing things I know I rock at doing – and when I get compliments later its a major confidence boost!

  59. Carol Lucas says:

    I am most confident when I am doing something I am good at such as teaching or making cards.

  60. Shannon S says:

    I am the most confident when I am using my mind…

  61. When I get that “smile” from my husband

  62. Deanna G. says:

    I feel most confident right after a really tough work out!

  63. Deanna G. says:
  64. when im dressed up and feeling sexy

  65. After achieving a goal

  66. I feel the most confident when I’m wearing a scarf.

  67. Kellie Rose Wilson says:

    I feel most confident in a new outfit

  68. Kellie Rose Wilson says:
  69. Nicole Larsen says:

    I feel most confident after getting my waxing done and a pedicure!

  70. Nicole Larsen says:
  71. jennifer horn says:

    i feel most confident when my husband compliments me on how great I look, especially after having 3 kids.

  72. jennifer horn says:
  73. Ashley Tucker says:

    I feel confident with hair and makeup done

  74. Ashley Tucker says:
  75. I feel confident when I smile! Thanks for a chance to win and have a great day!

  76. Laura Jacobson says:

    I feel most confident when I have lost some weight!

  77. Laura Jacobson says:
  78. Michelle S. says:

    I feel confident after I have had a good day at work and come home and manage to fix dinner without burning it! LOL

  79. Michelle S. says:
  80. anonymous says:

    I feel my most confident when I’m wearing a nice pair of heels or boots. They make me look long and lean. altern147 [at] yahoo [dot] com

  81. I am most confident when I’m recognized for the work I’ve accomplished.

  82. I feel most confident with a little make-up and a nice outfit :)

  83. A fresh and sassy haircut always makes me feel confident!

  84. I feel most confident when someone gives me a compliment
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  86. I’m most confident when I’m out with my grandsons and everyone mistakes them for my children.
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  87. I feel confident now because all the worse things in life are behind me, I survived all of them and getting older is really fun.

  88. maria cantu says:

    When I have showered after a good night’s sleep.

  89. I feel most confident when I am prepared and well rested

  90. Kim Miller says:

    I feel most confident when I’m having a good enough day that I’m not feeling depressed that I actually feel up to fixing myself up and leave the house. Even if it’s just to go to the store.

  91. I feel most confident when i’m with my friends.

  92. I feel most confident when listening to my favorite music up loud in the car with the windows down and my hubby driving and singing along with me at the top of our lungs. We laugh and don’t care what anyone thinks of us. We are just lost in the moment and loving life!

  93. I feel most confident when I’m in the swimming pool teaching my Arthritis Class. (No more hot flashes, thank the Goddess.)
    Thanks for the contest.

  94. I feel most confident when I have a great haircut, color, and style!

  95. having nice crisp clothes makes me feel confident! Thanks for a super giveaway!

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  97. Today, I went to the beachfront with my kids. I found a sea shell
    and gave it to my 4 year old daughter and said “You can hear the ocean if you put this to your ear.” She placed the
    shell to her ear and screamed. There was a hermit crab inside and it pinched her ear.
    She never wants to go back! LoL I know this is totally off topic but I had to tell someone!

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